We are often too quick to judge, too quick to doubt, and even quicker to jump to our own conclusions. Stop it. Seriously stop. Take a moment to give others the benefit of the doubt; you may just be pleasantly surprised. Wink. 

What exactly is the Benefit of the Doubt? It's a favorable opinion or judgment adopted despite uncertainty.

How interesting.
How important.
How crucial & very much needed.
Yet, that fact that this very phrase & this very definition has become almost obsolete, is a travesty.

One goal in this cray cray life should be to give women something men tend to receive automatically... the benefit of the doubt. I'm a girl's girl. Born & Bred.

The problem? Most girl's ain't. spit. 

Why? Why the hell is this so hard for most gals, ladies, girls, women, basically anyone possessing the XX chromosome to rise up, act like a lady, & be kind? Why do we feel threatened by other women, & view them as competition? It's beyond frustrating.

Amy Poehler said it best, "I want to be around people who DO things. I don't want to be around people who judge or talk about what other people do. I want to be around people who dream, and support, and do things."

When one is kind, she gives the benefit of the doubt. When we can give others the benefit of the doubt, then the benefit of the doubt will be reciprocated. Whatever happened to innocent till proven guilty?

I truly grew up somewhat naive. Gullible if you will, trusting. I still am. I've come to realize this significantly affects my outlook on life, & is a catalyst to why I'm genuinely happy. It's a choice. A conscious decision. Luck has nothing to do with it. Manifestation does. #Roar

When you give someone the benefit of the doubt, you are basically letting them off the hook. If we live this life as mirrors (which we do btw) the actions of others are a direct reflection of them, not you.

Are you wondering what the heck that even means?

It means that YOU, my darling, are off the hook. giggle. In all seriousness, it means that if someone isn't willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, it has absolutely NOTHING to do with YOU, and everything to do with them. #Truth

The older I've gotten, the more free I can be. The more certain, I become. Unfortunately, as I become more certain, the insecurities of others become more apparent. And that's ok.

As Marianne Williamson says in Our Deepest Fear"There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."

The true mark of maturity, is when someone hurts you & you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back. If we always prefer to believe the best in everybody, it will save us so much trouble. Giving the benefit of the doubt makes life a lot less stressful. I double-dog dare ya to try it. What do you have to lose? Stress? Anxiety, anger, frustration? Ok. I'm game. 

And please, please darlin', never judge someone by the opinion of others. Because then, in essence, you will be giving them the benefit of the doubt. Capeesh? How about we form our own opinion. That was a statement, not a question.

Don't become the sheep, following blindly into the slaughter house. You're better than that. Some of my closest friends, haven't given me the common courtesy of the #BenefitOfTheDoubt. They have succumbed to listening to the noise of others. I'd be lyin' if I didn't tell you it hurt.

Shocked, would actually be a better adverb.

Realizing your life is yours to live, and not worrying about the opinions of others is called TRUE FREEDOM. In life, you will meet two types of people: the ones who build you up & the ones who will tear you down. In the end, you will thank them both. They will either be a blessing or a lesson. And you will grow from both. #ConfettiWorthy

When you give someone the benefit of the doubt, you will make a friend. You will definitely make an impression. And you will make a difference in their life.

When we want the best for our own life, we can truly want the best in other's lives as well. #BAM

Love your life... Live your dream... Be Amazing.

Live w/ PaSsiOn,


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