One of the most important relationships we have is the relationship we have with our daughters. For she is the one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside... Smile.

One of the most important relationships we have is the relationship we have with our daughters. For she is the one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside... Smile.


We are the XX Chromosome. The sugar & spice and everything nice. The euphoria. The abyss. Wait a minute. 
Last time I checked, we didn't sign up for this.... wink.
This label. 
This definition. 
This pressure. 
We are girls. Period. We are human. 
We hurt like the boys. Bleed like the boys. Want more like the boys. #Roar

This societal game & pressure placed upon us, is a fallacy. It's bullshit. How do I know? Because I am a girl. Why do I care? Because I happened to have popped out two XX chromosome beauties myself. One of which just turned 18. Ouch. 

The reality of unleashing this naive beauty into the world takes my breath away. Leaves me speechless. Helpless. 

What I do know (and pray I've passed on by example) is that actions speak much louder than words. These are some of my favorites & words to live by. The tools, if you will, for any girl's belt. Not necessarily in any particular order. giggle. 

  1. Certainty Sells.
    Own your brilliance. Own your light. Fake it till you make it darlin' & Always wear your invisible crown. 
  2. Kindness wins.
    Be kind always. To yourself. To others. When you are kind, everything else falls into place.
    Don't be the smart-aleck or mean girl. Ever.  
  3. Smiles are contagious.
    Try it. It works. Unfortunately, so are frowns. Don't frown. Resting bitch face can and will backfire. Trust me. 
  4. Strength comes from Pain.
    Cue Kanye West; You will not die. I promise. Remember to breathe.
  5. Beauty comes from within. Duh.
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When your soul is beautiful, everything else is as well. 
  6. Hell is a state of mind.
    True Story.
  7. Spirituality is a must.
    We are souls. Not bodies. (Thank you C.S. Lewis)
  8. Listen more than you speak.
    We have two ears & one mouth for a reason. Think about it.
  9. Only speak if you know.
    Then you won't look silly. Again, True story.
  10. Exude compassion.
    You are a pen in the hand of a loving God. (Thank you Mother Teresa)
  11. Love yourself.
    If you don't and/or won't, no one else will. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent my dear.
  12. Let people off the hook.
    Including yourself. We are all flawed and loved by God.
    This is the secret rule in the book of life. Aka "the infamous happiness card"
  13. Seek silver-linings.
    They are there if you look hard. (Scavenger hunts are fun, go for it!) Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that "reason" may show up years later, but it's true. Roll with it. 
  14. Find joy in all situations. (see above)
  15. Life is a journey.
    Obviously. Pay attention. Enjoy the ride.
    Cue Miley Cyrus. Seriously, there will always be another mountain. Trust me.
  16. Be loyal. Be loyal. BE LOYAL.
    You will definitely stand out. No one is loyal anymore. Never be a sell out. Please.
  17. Failure is evident.
    Overcoming failure and not allowing it to define you is the ultimate goal.
  18. Pay Attention to your surroundings.
    Always, or you will miss the falling stars.
    Life is a gift, an actual present. I suggest you live there.
  19. You're going to make mistakes darling.
    So go ahead & make them.
    Forgiving yourself, recovering & learning from those mistakes is the ultimate goal. See #12.
  20. Don't judge yourself, Love yourself.
    Then and only then can you love others and not judge them.
  21. Make eye-contact.
    Look people in the eyes when they are talking. Look people in the eyes when you are talking.
  22. Respect is earned, not guaranteed.
    Respect yourself and others will follow suit. Never ever put yourself down, including others.
  23. Take Responsibility.
    Always. Do not make excuses for short-comings. Own them. Learn from them.
  24. Love.
    It hurts. It is wonderful. It is complex. Don't settle. Ever.
  25. Push through Fear.
    99% of the things you will worry about never ever happen.
  26. Go All-In.
    You only have one shot to make a first impression. How you do anything is how you do everything. Regrets are a beast. They cripple your soul. Avoid regrets at all costs.

Enjoying Life and it's ride is always optional. But I suggest you do just that! Enjoy Life that is. It is definitely not for the faint of heart, sweetheart. But we are raised differently. Time to put on your big-girl panties and show this crazy world what a bad-ass you truly are. #CrowdRoars

Please remember, at any given point, you have the opportunity to say, "This is not how the story is going to end."    You just have to remember to turn the page babe. #TimeToFly #TheFutureIsYours

Love your Life.   Live your Dream.   Be Amazing.   Always.

Love. Live. Be.

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