“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
Audrey Hepburn

Speak kindly. Especially to yourself, You are listening.

Are you aware of this truth? I’m not only talking about verbal affirmations darlin, rather your inner voice. Your inner truth. What you think about yourself in secret. Who are you when no one is looking? Hold on a minute, while I dust off my soap box…

This is a doozy for me. The very topic stirs my soul. I’ll get into any boxing ring to beat this message into becoming reality, truth. Why? Because it’s that important. For all women. Love yourself. Talk kindly to yourself. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge. Hence the downward spiral.

I’ll say it again. Something truly clicked in me around age 35. We all have those defining moments, those ah-ha moments that wake you the hell up. Mine became apparent mothering two girls. I have an awesome son as well. This isn’t about boys. They are so different from us. Spit.

“When women are depressed, they eat or go shopping. Men invade another country. It’s a whole different way of thinking”

Instilling self-worth and self-love is the number one thing you can give yourself and teach your child. Especially your daughter. Hands down. The way we talk to our children becomes their voice. Our actions, become their actions. I’ve seen it over and over, time and time again. Little girls talking down about themselves only realizing and understanding exactly where it’s coming from. It breaks my heart. 


I’m no saint. Trust me. I struggle with the exact same insecurities you do. We all have insecurities. Things we wish we could change. Why not concentrate on the positives? The things you love about yourself.

Confession time. I hate my legs. I always have. Ask my Dad. Seriously. Why my Dad? Because I would vocalize this time & time again growing up. His response? “At least you were born with two legs Jennifer. You better appreciate and love what you have. Anything can be taken away in a heartbeat.” Cut to the core. #PowerfulWords

The day I heard both my daughters separately from each other claiming how much they hated their legs ripped my heart out.

Watch this. Don’t be distracted. If you’re reading these emails in the car driving to work. (You be a multi-tasker like myself.) Wait until you can truly watch with your undivided attention. #GirlBoss Wink.
If we are raising the bar ladies, correction, we have raised the bar. We start addressing what true beauty looks like. We begin with ourselves. Remember, we can’t pour into others from an empty pitcher.

Get us right first.
Change one Woman.
Change a Child.
Change one Child.
You Change the World. 



“Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy?  This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth.  Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.
Alan Cohen

Do you love yourself? Well, guess what? This new journey you’ve embarked on you get to fall in love with yourself. It’s true. You get to.

In order to live an Amazing Life full of love and happiness you get to love yourself first. Most women do not. Humility. Vanity. Greed.
Don’t misconstrue the definitions of these words with self-love and self-acceptance my dear.

“To love is to recognize yourself in another.”
― Eckhart Tolle

I love myself. Some people say I’m cocky.
I love myself. Some people say I’m vain.
I love myself. Some people say I’m greedy.
I breathe. I smile. I love them in return. Why?
Because they don’t love themselves. Obviously.
Because their statements have absolutely nothing to do with me.

Let me share a little secret that’s allowed me to reengage with humanity after a two year hiatus.

We are actual mirrors to everyone we come in contact with.

What they say, what they portray exemplifies everything about them

 and absolutely nothing about you.

I should repeat that. Rather, you should reread that. Repeat it daily#FistPump


Time to go deep. What do you dislike about yourself? You finally get to release it. Let it go. Cue Elsa. Sidebar- I still have yet to see Frozen. Gasp.

What do you love about yourself? This is what you get to focus on. Pour energy into. Write on a piece of paper what you love about yourself. Put it on your bathroom mirror.

Jump on over to our closed FB group here….
Can’t wait to hear about all of our Self Love. Throw the peace sign.

Continue the Conversation over at our closed BAM Facebook page…

Women really do rule the world. They just haven’t figured it out yet. When they do, and they will, we’re all in big big trouble. #Roar

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